Dear Oklahoma...

This year more than ever, people from home are consistently saying the same thing “you should come home.” Though it pulls at my heart, what really influenced me was a 2010 Leadership Council talk at UCO. I believe it was a guest speaker but it could have been Scott "the great" Monetti. Whoever it was, they talked about being content or rather to challenge ourselves daily to not be content.

When we become comfortable we can also become stale and develop a fixed mindset. Whereas, if we pursue a life of things that make us uncomfortable or at least challenges us, we can grow. Our ideas of what the world should look like, the perception of the people and culture around us and how to handle the future will be better off when we challenge our ideas and assumptions.

Yes, I fully agree that I could be happy at home. In fact, it would be incredibly easy to live there. I’ve developed meaningful relationships with my family and a few close friends, I could quickly find a job, I know where I could volunteer and I could open a dojo. I have connections and ties everywhere in the great state of Oklahoma. It would be easy. I would be simply content but being content is not enough for me.

I want to push myself past content and see just how far I can go. 

I want to be called out for a micro-aggression and not be defensive, when just last year I heard the term for the first time. I want to discuss stereotyping and cultures with a security guard long after all the students were picked up. I want to struggle to pronounce names because I live in a place where the ones I grew up with are considered the “unique” names. I want to sit on a bus with a man seeking refuge from his country during a time of "conflict" and have a 3-hour conversation using translating apps. I want to experience life not from a bubble with a radius of my own backyard but from meeting people, living in other cultures and being open to my own vulnerability.

So dear dojo, Red Cross and every other type of family back home, know I love you and miss you dearly but understand that I am exactly where I need to be.

Sincerely,
Jenn

                         

Public Transportation: first 10 day in NY

Things Google Maps does not tell you:

1. Which side of the street your station is on.
2. Buses do not stop at every stop.
3. In fact, buses do not stop unless you hit some non-existent button on the wall to signal you would like to exit.

Things NY Subway stations do not tell you:

1. Cardinal directions: North, South, East, West, Loopty Loop, etc. Maybe they are unaware but being new means I don't know where Forrest Hills, Brooklyn, Jamaica, etc are located. M/R Train towards Forrest Hills is like pointing at a child's imaginary friend and saying, “you see it, right?” Dang it subways, I need stations to say R train Northbound. This I can understand.
2. Not all subway trains are created equal. Just because your first subway train has light up screen with what stops are next and a loud speaker to announce each arrival/departure does not mean all of them do.
3. If a man goes around setting key chains on everyone, it is not a cute “Welcome to New York” favor to keep. Return it or pay up.

Time it should take vs. Actual time

• To Work (by bus) 17 minutes vs 59 minutes, one frantic call to mom and a cab from Manhattan
• To Rebecca's apartment (by sub) 40 minutes vs over an hour and again, ended up in Manhattan
• From Prospect Park (by sub) 46 minutes vs 1.5 hours